If you’re going through a divorce or nasty break up with the father of your kids, things are about to get rough.
Getting divorced is a hard thing to do. But sometimes it’s necessary. After all, you’re meant to have a good life and be happy. At times, parting ways are the only solution – especially if you’ve been in an abusive relationship.
However, the transition from having a partner to being completely on your own should not be underestimated. It’s hard. The good news is that with time, it gets easier.
1) Dealing with Crazy Emotions
The emotions are the worst. Self-doubt. Loneliness. Depression.
At first, everything is crazy. You’re not sure whether you made the right decision or not. “Is this the best thing for my kids?” you ask yourself.
2) A Lack of Support
If you don’t have that support team behind you things are going to get hard. Since many people are against divorce and may not understand and support your decision.
3) Not Making Ends Meet
Running low in the finance department is a common theme for single mothers.
4) Not Receiving Child Support
Many women who are supposed to receive child support but don’t. My advice is to plan your budget without even thinking about getting child support.
5) Dealing with a Deadbeat Dad
If you’re not receiving the child support you’re supposed to get my guess is you’re dealing with a dead beat dad.
If the father of your kids is not stepping up to the plate, stop depending on him. Of course, your kids need to spend time with their Dad and you should let them do so. But if you can’t count on his word then lower your expectations. Don’t let him be the source of your stress.
6) Being Overworked
If you read the not making ends meet section then it’s clear that you, as a single mom, are going to have to work a lot harder than those with supportive spouses.
It’s a big shock at first. But if you put in the work you can get around this by creating your own opportunities.
7) Missing Your Kids Like Crazy
The hardest part for in all of this is just how much you will miss your kids when they’re at their Dads. You constantly wonder what they’re doing, if they’re behaving, and hoping they aren’t put in any bad situations. But it’s out of your control.
Do I even need to elaborate on this? There is nothing more annoying than trying to date as a single parent. Not only is there the whole “When do I introduce him to my kids? Are they worthy of meeting my kids? Will they like my kids? Do they like kids so much that I should be concerned?” and so on and so forth.
9) Sex Starved
Of course, you know what we mean by this,this in fact is the most frustrating part of being a single mother.
Those are the seven biggest frustrations of single mums. Some of them you’ll have the ability to change while others are completely out of your control.
Do the best you can and focus on what’s in your power. It takes some time to get used to but after a while you’ll figure everything out.