Chiamaka was a beautiful 14-year-old, who was raised just right. Her studies were priority, and frolicking with boys was the last thing on her mind. One would think that those were enough to keep her out of harm’s way but that was not to be.
The young girl was attacked by some drug emboldened miscreants who raped her to death on the bedroom floor of her parents’ house.
Her case is not isolated. In recent times, there has been a spike in the number of reported rape cases. There is a rape story every other day, with Chiamaka’s case being the height of it. Many have shared their opinions and views on this scourging menace on social media. Of course, as can be expected, different people have come with different views. There are the sympathisers, the activists and the excuse givers. One of the excuse givers is Ogagun Seyi Gcfr who blames rape on indecent dressing.
In my opinion, those who give excuses for rape are just as guilty as the rapists. I call these ones the enablers. They come in different forms, from the seemingly well-meaning to the absurd.
The Why Group
Those who immediately ask questions belong to this group. You hear them ask such questions as: “Why didn’t she shout? Why did she wear revealing clothes? (These ones are the captains of the Why class.) Why was she out and about at that time of the night? Why did she go to his house? Why was she rude to the boys?” The WHYs go on.
The Virginity Protection Squad
These are the ones who say the victim should keep quiet so that the world will not know that she has had her hymen punctured. Never mind that she was violated. The other ones would ask if she was a virgin. You’d hear such things as “after all, she no be virgin, why she kon dey vex.” For this group, it’s not about the girl or the violation, it’s a matter of her hymen.
The Prove Him Wrong Gang
They are the “prove him wrong” gang. This group boasts of motivational speakers, positive thinkers and trauma experts. They tell the victim to ‘move on’, be successful and let their success shame the rapist. They tell her to ‘not make a fuss after all she is not the only one.’ This group trivializes the pain, forgetting that people handle things differently. They would not allow people deal with their issues at their own pace.
What all of these groups inadvertently do is shift the blame of rape from the culprit to the victim. Rather than hold the guilty responsible, the burden of responsibility is placed on the victim. Rape isn’t just physical violation, it is also emotional and psychological. The last thing the victim needs is any form of shaming. They certainly do not need all judgments passed on them by social media critics who have no idea what they are going through. What they need is justice and professional help.