Let’s face it, men can captivate us with a dazzling smile or a flirtatious wink, but how do you know whether or not you’re wasting your time on him? Have no fear ladies, I’m here to share the signs that you’re sure just wasting your time on him
You haven’t been asked out on a Date Yet
The biggest sign that you’re wasting your time on him is if you have not been asked out on a date yet. If you just met the guy a few days ago, give it some time, obviously. But if you’ve been messaging back and forth for a while now or maybe you have mutual friends with him and see him out and about, it should be a red flag that he hasn’t made a move to ask you out yet.
You find out he’s still hanging with his Ex
It’s healthy to be cordial with ex’s, but staying in touch with them, hanging out with them, buying presents for them, and spending important holidays with them well, that’s another flag right there.
You don’t feel wanted by him
Before finding out he was “catching up” with his ex and “just hanging out”, I had already experienced signs of not feeling wanted by him. It seemed like every time I expressed myself I just felt like he smiled and brushed it off, like he didn’t really care about me for me. BIG NO-NO, girl you deserve to feel wanted.
You feel like you can’t be yourself around him
I just felt like I couldn’t even be myself around him. My gut feeling was telling me not to open up to him, not to be myself around him, and not to let him in. It’s easy to fall in love with the idea of being with someone, which is why most women ignore these signs and keep pursuing their crush. The less I felt like I could be myself around him, the more encouraged I was to leave him in the dust.
You question His Every Move
Jealousy is an ugly feeling, if there are surges of anger bottled up inside you because you feel that you can’t trust him or that you’re questioning his every move, stop wasting your time on that man, because your health and sanity is worth more than feeling stuck in a relationship of questioning and doubt and insecurity. Your man should make you feel loved and wanted and special and you should feel respect and trust towards him.
You really don’t know much about Him
If your relationship with your crush is more physical than emotional or if it’s built more around you talking about yourself and his just sitting there listening and not contributing to the relationship, it’s yet another red flag. Not every relationship is perfect, I get that and I know that. But when you’re with someone who really cares about you and who really wants to get to know you better, he’s going to put a lot of effort in making sure that you’re feeling like a priority.
You Are Always Initiating Things
Hands down if you’re finding yourself being the one to ask him out on a date or asking him to meet you at the movies or asking him to be your gym partner, then he’s not worth your time. Again, it goes back to what I said about a one-way street. You shouldn’t always be the one initiating things.
You Get “Miss You” Messages with Zero Action
Actions speak louder than words. We all know this. If you are feeling upset by the messages that go unnoticed or unanswered, stop wasting your time on him. Internalize that you are worth so much more than a boy who is just dragging you around for his own entertainment.